It’s been FOREVER! Sooo, today I have a “pre-dating” article for you…this is the type of article about what I would “like” in a guy, and would like to realize before the first date…
Before I launch into that I would like to tell you something…I’m 17, and I have never been on a date before. (Other then with my Daddy! :) )
“Why?” You ask.
The Answer? I don’t see the point.
I’m 17, I have plenty of time to start a relationship with someone. I don’t have to start right away! I also don’t think that dating is the best thing in high-school. I’m not saying it doesn’t work for some people, but the majority of the time it does end in heartbreak. It can work sometimes, but I decided to wait. This is my personal decision. I think that dating is for the intention of marriage, that is what the relationship is for. Why put yourself through so many emotions if you aren’t ready?
Dating younger does work for some (Note: some not all) people, but my personal decision has been to wait. If you have dated young, I would like you to take note that I am not saying anything bad against you.
So, here people are a few of the things I have figured out, and would personally would like to get to know about this future suitor before the first date:
- I would like him to be my best friend.
I want him to be able to know my likes, my dislikes, my quirks, how annoying I can be, AS WELL as what I’m good at, and how fun I can be to hang out with. I want him to be able to know my good side, and my bad side. I don’t want him to think afterwards: “why did I start dating her to begin with?!”
- I want to be able to trust him, and feel safe with him.
I think that this is really important. He should be someone I can trust, and know that he won’t judge me. I think we can all agree that this goes along with #1. You are going to trust, and feel safe with your best friend.
- Our faith.
“Our” faith. Not “my” faith or “his” faith. We should share a belief in Jesus, and have a similar foundation.
I think this road goes both ways for girls and boys. Men/boys should be willing to be chivalrous (to everyone) not just the girl they like, and likewise girls can be modest, and encourage the guys in chivalry. I think this is a really important quality…and I can guarantee you, that from a girls perspective at least, when I see a guy being a gentlemen to everyone…I take another take. And I’m fairly certain that many guys are thankful when in turn women/girls are modest…and when they encourage the men/boys in there efforts of chivalry. (Maybe it takes guts to open the door, and help with the groceries, and offer the jacket, etc.)
- He should respect me, and my opinions, (and when/if we start dating) my body, and my boundaries.
If he doesn’t respect you when you are his friend, how do you expect him to respect you when you start dating, and eventually are married?
- I want a guy who makes me want to grow in my faith…not make me feel like I have to educate him on it.
For me this is a big deal. A guy who makes me want to grow in my walk with the Lord. I don’t want to be educating a guy on my beliefs, I want to be able to discuss it with him, and we can learn from each other.
- That we can pray together.
That we can pray for each other, and together about anything. Including the relationship.
You’re going to meet a lot of guys, and girls in your life. Some of them will be jerks. Some of them will need maturing. Some of them will be nice, but not right for you…
Dating isn’t always fun, and easy, I can tell just from watching friends and family going through relationships. There will be twists and turns in the road and life…but a good foundation of friendship, respect, and prayer is a good way to build onto a relationship.
Hope you enjoyed this everyone!!
Prayers, and Music!!